HANDLING ADVERSITY
1 SAMUEL 17:1-54
THE BEGINNING OF BULLING
We are living in a world where bullying is a common activity. It all started
In the heavenly realm. Lucifer, now called Satan decide he wanted to be
Like God and set his throne in the heavens. Because of his pride, Lucifer
Was kicked out of the high heavens and became the angel of darkness.
He landed on earth and began his work to destroy God’s family.
While bullying isn’t a new phenomenon, it is a major problem.
• Children deal with bullies every day at school. Some then come home to a bully in the home.
• People work with bullies on their jobs.
• There are bullies among our neighbors.
• There are bullies in the church.
• There are bullies out in public.
• Bullies are everywhere.
• Bullies inhabit every sphere of our lives.
Bullying is defined as, “the use of threats of coercion to intimidate others. It is the activity of repeated aggressive behavior intended to hurt another person, either physically or emotionally.” Bullying can include verbal harassment and threats, physical assaults, or coercion. Coercion is “the use of intimidation or force to force someone into doing your will.” So, bullying is characterized by someone who behaves in certain ways to gain power over others. (Notes from the Sermon Notebook (SN)
CHARACTERISTICS OF A BULLY
Here are some of the defining characteristics of a bully:
• Lacks empathy for others.
• Needs to control others.
• Gets angry quickly.
• Constantly reminds others of their weaknesses.
• Picks on those who don’t comply with his expectations.
• Makes others afraid through threats.
• Uses physical aggression to intimidate and control.
• Defies any who would share or correct his power.
Bullies come in all shapes, sizes, colors, ages, and they wear all types of external packages.
• Children can be bullies.
• Husbands and wives can be bullies.
• Elderly people can bully others.
• Rich people, poor people, wise people, and foolish people can be bullies.
• Teenagers can be bullies
• Preachers and Deacons can be bullies.
• They are everywhere, and they are all the same.
• They are small-minded, evil-hearted people who want the power to control those who live around them.
SEE A BULLY AND BELIEVE THAT HE IS
Anyone who has faith in Almighty God, and a little courage in their heart, can see the
bullies in their lives put in their place.
The story of David and Goliath points to the way to handle a bully.
• If you had asked Israel about Goliath, they would have said, “This is a hopeless situation.”
• If you had asked King Saul, he would have said, “This is hopeless!”
• If you had asked David, he would have said, “Goliath is a bully, and God is about to deal with him!” (SN)
HOW THIS BULLY IS DESCRIBED ( V:1-24)
A. His Source - Our text says that Goliath was a “Philistine.” The Philistines were one of the Canaanite tribes left over from Israel’s conquest of the Promised Land. They were powerful, warlike people. They were pagan idolaters, who worshipped the fish-god Dagon, of Judah in the east.
B. His Size (V:4-7)
The Philistines chose to fight Israel. Their biggest weapon was a giant named Goliath. His name means “splendor”. Goliath was from the city of Gath”
Goliath was not an ordinary soldier.
• He stood “six cubits and a span.” This means that he was “9’ 9” tall,” v. 4.
• He wore copper armor that covered his body from head to toe, v. 5-6.
• Walking before Goliath was a soldier who carried another shield to help protect him from any arrows or spears launched by his enemies. (SN)
. His Statements (V:8-10, 16. 23)
- Goliath came out from the Philistine lines and challenges the Israelites to a fight. He mocks them and calls them cowards, v. 8. He demands that they send out a soldier to fight him, v. 8. Goliath did this twice every day for forty days, v. 16. Goliath was a persistent bully who did not give up. He was determined to get what he wanted from the Israelites.
D. His Success
Verse 11 says when Israel heard the taunts of Goliath, they were “dismayed, and greatly afraid.” The word “dismayed” means “to break down from fear.” The phrase “greatly afraid” suggests they overcome with an “exceeding great terror.” The army of Israel was horror-struck, petrified, panic-stricken, and alarmed! The presence, appearance, and threats of the giant Goliath left the soldiers and king of Israel paralyzed with fear. (SN)
Because of his size and strength, he held absolute power over Israel and King Saul.
From time to time, we will face some type of bullying in our Life.
Some problems arise in life that can assume power over us.
Some people are large in our minds, to the point where we fear
them and what they might do to us.
Some circumstances and situations overwhelm us with their intensity.
Sometimes the bullies we face leave us not knowing what to do or where to turn.
The bully does not have to win! You can defeat your bully, no matter what, or who it
is.
HOW GOLIATH IS DEFINED (V:25-30)
Goliath threatens Israel. He mocked them and challenged them to send out a man to fight him to the death. He did this eighty times over forty days. Each time, Israel responded by hiding in fear from an opponent they saw as unbeatable. Even their powerful leader, King Saul, did not out to face the giant from Gath. Fear ruled the day in Israel.
HOW YOU SEE A BULLY DETERMINES WHAT YOU DO
A. Some Saw This Bully As An Opponent(V:25) - When Israel saw and heard Goliath, they said “surely to defy Israel is he come up.” They saw Goliath merely as a threat to their nation. They saw him as a threat to their peace, their prosperity, and their happiness. When this bully stood up, all they could see was him and them. They Could not see beyond how they felt about the matter. This is the view of fear!
B. Some Saw This Bully As An Obstacle (v:26)
Israel saw Goliath as standing between them and what they wanted.
C. Some Saw This Bully As An Opportunity(V:25-30) - The men around David tell him at least three times, vs. 25, 27, 30, that the man who kills the bully will be rewarded by the king. Verse 25 says “the king will enrich him with great riches, and will give him his daughter, and make his father’s house free in Israel (SN)
D. David saw Goliath as standing between God and what God wanted. David said,
“…for who is this uncircumcised Philistine that he should defy the armies of the Living God?” To David, this issue was bigger than Saul. It was bigger than the army of Israel. It was bigger than all of them put together. To David, this issue was about the glory of God. This was the view of faith! (SN)
BULLYS ARE AN OPPORTUNITY TO RECEIVE GOD’S GLORY
When you accepted Jesus as your personal savior,
You signed up for the battle.
Luke 9:23-25
Then he said to them all: "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me. 24 For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will save it.
HOW DO YOU GET PREPARED TO HANDLE A BULLY?
1. Wake up in the morning with Lord on your mind.
2. Meditate on the victories God has won for you.
3. Be prepared to give a testimony of what God has done for you.
4. Recognize that you were chosen for the battle.
2 Corinthians 9:8
God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.
5. Consider who you are and whose you are.
a. You are a child of the king.
b. You have king resources.
c. You have the king’s authority.
d. You are awarded the victory of the king.
Philippians 4:13
I can do all things through Christ which strengthen me.
HOW THIS BULLY WAS DEFEATED
HE WAS DEFEATED BY COURAGE
Proclaim the victory.
1 Samuel 17:34-37
When a lion or a bear came and carried off a sheep from the flock,
I went after it, struck it, and rescued the sheep from its mouth. When it turned on me, I seized it by its hair, struck it, and killed it. 36 Your servant has killed both the lion and the bear; this uncircumcised Philistine will be like one of them because he has defied the armies of the living God. 37 The Lord who delivered me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will deliver me from the hand of this Philistine."
The Lord is the same today as He was in the past. He does not change.
• The Lord has promised to be with you. “I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee,” Heb. 13:5.
• The Lord had promised to see you through to the other side. “When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee,” Isa. 43:2.
• The Lord has promised to protect you. “No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is of me, saith the LORD,” Isa.54:17. (SN)
B. He Is Defeated By Conviction(V:37-40)
You have to fight your battles with the gifts and talents that God has given
You.
Saul’s army was equipped with swords, spears, and battle armor,
that David was not familiar with. He was a teenager skilled with a
Slingshot.
David knew the secret to success wasn’t in the armor of men.
David had the conviction that bullies aren’t defeated by weapons or by the tactics of men. David knew that Goliath would only be defeated by the same power that had enabled him to defeat the lion and the bear. In both those cases, David identified “the Lord” as the source of his victory, v. 36. David’s conviction was that victory was in the hand of the Lord and nowhere else.
1 Samuel 17:45-48
45 David said to the Philistine, "You come against me with sword and spear and javelin, but I come against you in the name of the Lord Almighty, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. 46 This day the Lord will hand you over to me, and I'll strike you down and cut off your head. Today I will give the carcasses of the Philistine army to the birds of the air and the beasts of the earth, and the whole world will know that there is a God in Israel. 47 All those gathered here will know that it is not by sword or spear that the Lord saves; for the battle is the Lord's, and he will give all of you into our hands."
That’s the same conviction we need to see our bullies defeated. We can’t defeat them in our power.
Where we are weak, He is strong. So, we need to forget about what we have done, or what we think we can do, and we need to place our faith in the God Who can!
“Now unto him, that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,” Eph. 3:20. (That includes the power to give us victory over all our bullies.)
C. He Is Defeated By Confidence(V:41-54) –
David faced Goliath with the confidence of what God had done in his past.
David stood on his testimony. If God did it yesterday, He will do it today.
The bully in verses 41-47 stood before David. But David saw God standing before him ready to fight the giant. He put his faith in the Lord, and the Lord didn’t let him down.
• David reaches into his shepherd’s bag and took out a single stone.
• He placed that stone in his sling and aimed at Goliath.
• The stone hit Goliath between the eyes, sunk into his head, and the bully was dead before he hit the ground, v. 49.
HOW DO YOU GET VICTORY OVER A BULLY?
FAITH IN GOD
It is not by your power or your skill that victory is won. It is your trust in God.
2 Chronicles 20:15-16
For the battle is not yours, but God's.
God is the key to all your problems, not you.
Faith in God is the key to handling all adversities in your life.
“faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God,” Rom. 10:17. And the Word of God says, “If the Son, therefore, shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed,” John 8:36.
SUMMARY
WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO HANDLE THE BULLIES IN YOUR LIFE
COURAGE
CONVICTION
CONFIDENCE